This week, week 32, something that’s really come to the surface, and it’s combined with what I’ve covered in the last couple of weeks, is that space to pause. That area to observe. And I’ve talked a lot the last couple of weeks about being in observation, and that’s something that has really been available to me for a lot of this year.
Holding space is not a particularly easy process. There are a lot of occasions where being in observation is actually kind of difficult, especially when you take that stance at first. Because we’re so apt to react to things and to jump into action, we don’t always take the time to consider what the best course for us might be.
When we’re working towards what actions make us feel the best, or what responds from our ego, or what just seems like it’s the right thing, or what the person across from us wants. Those reactions don’t necessarily reflect any kind of specific thought or time that we’ve taken to consider the situation.
Within the societal and personal structures that we’ve been taught to participate in, the way things are done doesn’t particularly allow for the opportunity to pause.
Most folks expect us to answer very quickly, or respond to the text, or reply to the email, within seconds or minutes without a whole lot of area to consider what’s been presented to us, and give us time to think. Give us time to assess. And give our consciousness an opportunity to move past the reaction, and into an actual response. And the response really is something that’s more thought out, that is based in what has been analyzed, what has been considered, what has been thought through.
On the other hand, the reaction is the immediate action that we take. There’s a simplicity that allows us to roll with the punches and keep on going. There’s the other side that it doesn’t always work out. I’ve found for myself that if I’m in reaction, I tend to be going back and analyzing a lot more when I spend less time considering things. If I spend the time, when something occurs to consider it and then respond, I do a lot less of managing my reactions.
It didn’t start out easy, and it’s still not the easiest approach, in some cases, but it has changed how often I have to backtrack – or choose to backtrack – and try to figure things out, or fix something, or whatever situation has arisen from a reaction. It also keeps me out of the same old loop, because I get an opportunity to consider.
What I invite those of you listening to do, is to recognize for yourselves where that might be beneficial, for you and your world, to consider reaction and response. The reaction is a programming, or our natural, realistic human condition (survival, security, egoic, whatever category you want to put it in). It’s that piece that makes us human. And that’s fine! Because we are human, – it’s a real thing!
It used to be that we had to figure out what to do: “Do we run? Do we stay and protect? Do we do something in between? How do we handle the situation?” And that was very extreme in the beginning. Just about survival: fight or flight.
And then freeze was added. “Do we hide?”
When those are our only options, it doesn’t really give us a lot to work with.
Our discerning mind allowed us to get to a different place, where we develop tools, or ways of handling things that were different. Whether the tool was a spear, or a shield, or something else, that tool changed our response to what we saw as a threat or danger. But, that was after some contemplation, and some consideration to “how do we handle this thing?”
Of course, the reaction is completely normal and that is, in some cases, all we have time for, and it saves our lives. It’s absolutely still reasonable!
It’s not about doing away with reactionary moments. But, there are also occasions where it is useful to just take a moment and consider, and then respond.
If we always go for what makes us feel good, then we are following the feelings.
That’s not a terrible way of doing things. This is not a judgment of what makes us feel good, this is an invitation to move through that space, recognize it, see what it is, feel the emotions, understand and observe them… But, what’s past that? What is after the emotional piece?
That’s the consideration.
I describe it to many souls as a snapshot of the moment. And that’s what I’ll share with you here. A snapshot of the moment. If you think about what it takes to make that picture happen, you pause and get your camera ready, you frame the picture, you take the picture, and then you take a moment to look at the picture and see how it came out. And you scan the details of the picture.
Maybe you look all around it, you look at the composition and the color, and see if everything came out okay.
If we took the same time in situations, to just snap that quick picture, we might see a lot more. We might know more about the situation, we might understand it differently, from a wider angle.
This idea ties into the work within the Akashic Records, because the Records are a database of information. It’s a lot of information, just like the picture is a capture of that information. And, therefore, an opportunity to observe. There’s still interpretation to be done.
Even though we’re getting information, just like the picture, doesn’t necessarily answer the questions, but it does give you a lot to work with. It gives you a lot of space to operate, and consider. Even just taking the time to take the snapshot, gives you a little bit of room to operate. Maybe get you out of the emotion, and into a place where you can connect.
That’s our main takeaway with this week’s Akashic Weekly: look at the information! See it as information, and take your snapshot. Take your moment to see what’s going on. Sometimes the reaction is the best thing; sometimes a response is more appropriate, or more useful, or just the choice you make.
They both have their merits, they both have their reasons. If we’re always in one or the other, that would seem extreme, in my opinion, and having both possibilities and both tools in the toolbox, to me, seems like a pretty good idea!
Until next time, let’s keep it grounded.
This is a transcript of the Authentically Akashic Podcast, with teacher, speaker, and Akashic Records reader, Jason Antalek. Please take a moment to follow or subscribe to this podcast. Your comments and questions are welcomed.